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Start planning for spring 2026 commencement

Anonymous — Tue, 24 Feb 2026 20:42:54 +0000

Start planning for spring 2026 commencement Anonymous (not verified) Tue, 02/24/2026 - 13:42

Spring commencement will be here before you know it, and now is a great time to start planning your trip to �鶹ӰԺ. Graduation is a special milestone for college students, and planning ahead can help you and your Buff enjoy the celebration. Here are a few things to keep in mind as you prepare for commencement.

Encourage your student to apply for graduation

Each student must officially apply to graduate. Encourage your student to review important deadlines and make a plan to apply for spring graduation. You’ll also learn more about preparing for graduation day, including purchasing a cap and gown and ordering graduation announcements.

Prepare for your visit to �鶹ӰԺ

Commencement weekend is a busy time in �鶹ӰԺ, so planning ahead can make your visit more enjoyable. Hotels and vacation rentals tend to fill up quickly, particularly in �鶹ӰԺ, so you may want to book lodging early or explore nearby areas.

Restaurants are also in high demand during graduation. Consider making reservations ahead of time. Downtown �鶹ӰԺ’s dining guide and events calendar are great places to find dining and entertainment options during your stay.

Commencement Ceremony details

The university commencement ceremony will be held 8:30 a.m. Saturday, May 2, at Folsom Field. The event does not require tickets or registration. This traditional ceremony celebrates the academic accomplishments of all our graduates.

The commencement ceremony lasts approximately 90 minutes and features a processional of the graduates, conferral of degrees, remarks from CU �鶹ӰԺ leadership and other celebratory elements. Learn more about the commencement ceremony.

Recognition ceremonies

Commencement includes two types of events:

A campuswide commencement ceremony

Individual recognition ceremonies hosted by colleges, schools, departments and programs

Students and families are encouraged to attend both.

Your student may be invited to participate in one or more recognition ceremonies. At these events, students are recognized individually as they cross the stage and receive a diploma cover. Diplomas are mailed to students after commencement. Learn more about spring recognition ceremonies.

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Supporting your student when they’re sick

Emily Sampl — Fri, 23 Jan 2026 17:44:24 +0000

Supporting your student when they’re sick Emily Sampl Fri, 01/23/2026 - 10:44

As the semester gets busy, it’s natural to worry if your student comes down with a cold, flu or another common illness. Even from afar, your calm encouragement can help them feel more supported and prepared. Here are some simple ways you can help guide them through getting sick while at school.

Encourage your student to stay home

If your student isn’t feeling well, remind them that it’s okay—and important—to stay home and rest. Staying away from others (including roommates when possible) helps prevent illnesses from spreading. Wearing a mask can also reduce the risk of passing respiratory viruses to the people they live with.

If they need to miss class or work, encourage them to:

Email instructors or supervisors to let them know they’re sick

Mention any assignments due and offer to make up the work

Discuss a plan with instructors if they expect to be out for more than a day or two

Contact Disability Services if they have a temporary condition like an extended illness, injury or surgery

Most students can return to normal activities after at least 24 hours of improving symptoms and no fever.

Help them monitor symptoms

Many illnesses share similar symptoms—fever, fatigue, headaches and sore throat can show up with colds, flu, strep throat, mono and COVID. Testing can help your student understand what they might be dealing with.

Your student can:

Schedule testing at Wardenburg Health Center or a local clinic

Pick up COVID or flu at‑home test kits at the Apothecary Pharmacy on campus or other local pharmacies

Wear a mask if they’re unsure what they have, especially around others

While sick, most students can care for themselves at home with basic remedies such as:

Drinking plenty of water, tea or electrolyte drinks

Getting extra rest

Using cough drops, saltwater gargles or honey for sore throats

Taking over‑the‑counter medications for fever, nausea or other symptoms

On‑campus resources for student:

Free illness‑care supplies at Wardenburg’s Wellness Suite (third floor) and Village Center Wellness

Free cold‑care kits delivered to residence halls through the Buff Box program

Test kits, OTC medications and prescriptions at the Apothecary Pharmacy

Help them know when to seek care

If your student is unsure what to do, encourage them to call their primary care provider or Medical Services at 303‑492‑5101. They can also schedule a same‑day nurse call through their MyCUHealth portal. A nurse can help them understand their symptoms and decide whether to stay home or visit a clinic.

For after-hours care, CU �鶹ӰԺ Medical Services has partnered with the TimelyCare mobile app to offer all students free access to telehealth medical support. Encourage your student to create an account at timelycare.com/cuboulder to get started.

They should seek emergency care right away if they have:

Trouble breathing

Chest pain or pressure

Sudden confusion

Difficulty staying awake

Blue or gray lips, face or skin

If they’re experiencing severe symptoms and aren’t sure where to go, they should contact a medical provider for guidance or call 911 in an emergency.

With your reassurance, and the resources available on campus, your student can feel more confident navigating illness and getting back to their routines when they’re ready.

As the semester picks up pace, it’s completely understandable to feel concerned if your college student faces common illnesses like the flu or a cold. Even from afar, your encouragement and support can make a meaningful difference. With a few caring tips, you can help your student feel prepared and confident if they get sick while away at school.

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Helping your Buff make the most of living in �鶹ӰԺ

Kyra Raye Loch — Wed, 17 Dec 2025 17:18:36 +0000

Helping your Buff make the most of living in �鶹ӰԺ Kyra Raye Loch Wed, 12/17/2025 - 10:18

�鶹ӰԺ is a beautiful place to live, with stunning scenery, great food and plenty of outdoor adventures. As a Buff family member, you can play an important role in helping your student make the most of their time here while being a responsible and considerate community member. Here are some tips and resources to share with your student.

Encourage outdoor exploration

�鶹ӰԺ often enjoys sunny winter days, perfect for outdoor activities. Suggest these options to your student:

Explore �鶹ӰԺ Creek Path: This is a great way to see the city. Students can sign up for a free BCycle student pass for unlimited e-bike rides.

Hiking or snowshoeing: The Rec Center’s Outdoor Pursuits program rents gear like snowshoes, boots and insulated clothing.

Skiing: If your student has an Ikon Pass, they can use the CU Ski Bus Program for transportation to the mountains.

Find budget-friendly winter gear

If your student needs winter essentials like boots or coats, remind them that thrift stores in �鶹ӰԺ offer affordable, sustainable options. Shopping secondhand saves money and supports the environment.

Prevent fines and property issues

Help your student understand local requirements:

Snow removal: �鶹ӰԺ requires sidewalks to be cleared within 24 hours of snowfall. Encourage your Buff to check their lease or ask their landlord who is responsible.

Prevent frozen pipes: Heat should stay at the lease-designated temperature or at least 55°F.

Be a considerate neighbor

Your student’s actions impact the community. Share these tips:

Introduce themselves to neighbors: Building relationships with neighbors fosters trust and communication.

Manage noise: �鶹ӰԺ enforces noise ordinances at all times. Students can register parties through Off-Campus Life for a courtesy warning before police respond.

Fire safety: Fireworks and open burning are prohibited due to wildfire risk.

Encourage your student to connect with Off-Campus Life to learn more about ordinances, avoiding citations and other helpful tips about living in �鶹ӰԺ. If your Buff receives a citation or finds themselves in legal trouble, Student Legal Services can help.

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Tips to help your student start the semester strong

Anonymous — Wed, 10 Dec 2025 21:09:41 +0000

Tips to help your student start the semester strong Anonymous (not verified) Wed, 12/10/2025 - 14:09

The beginning of a new semester is a great time for students to start fresh and reset. No matter where your student is in their academic journey, here are some tips to help them start the semester strong.

Get involved

In addition to Spring Welcome events, there are many ways for students to connect with others and get involved this semester. Here are some upcoming opportunities for students to check out:

Sko Serve Spring Break Program: Sko Serve sends teams of college students to engage in meaningful service during their breaks from school. Applications close Jan. 30.

Kickoff Week at The Rec: Students can enjoy free events and activities at the Rec Center during Spring Kickoff Jan. 8-19.

On-Campus Student Job & Professional Experience Fair: Is your student looking for resume experience? They can meet with campus departments who are hiring student employees and offering other professional opportunities at this fair on Jan. 15.

Be Involved Fair: On Jan. 21, Buffs can meet with hundreds of student organizations and learn about how to get involved on campus.

Volunteer Fair: Encourage your student to attend this fair on Feb. 3 to connect with local organizations that have volunteer opportunities and learn about getting involved in their community.

Spring career and internship fairs: In addition to these events, Career Services has online tools to support your student with their job or internship search, from finding opportunities to getting help with resumes, cover letters and interviews.

Go to office hours

Faculty members have office hours, where students can meet with them outside of the classroom. Office hours allow your student to meet one-on-one with their professor to ask questions, gain a better understanding of class material or express concerns.

Encourage your student to go to their faculty office hours during the first few weeks of the semester to introduce themselves. Getting to know professors early in the semester can make it easier to ask for help later if needed. Regularly attending office hours and establishing a rapport with faculty can also offer additional opportunities, like research projects or internships.

Find academic support

As the semester progresses, encourage your student to ask for help if they feel stuck on a problem, project or concept discussed in class. Students can use many tutoring and learning resources at any point in the semester, including the Writing Center and University Libraries. The Academic Success & Achievement Program (ASAP Tutoring) supports all first-year students and any student living on campus with adjusting to college life. This includes tutoring in many different classes and mentorship in being a successful student.

Encourage your student to learn more about resources and getting involved by following @CU�鶹ӰԺLife on Instagram and downloading the CU �鶹ӰԺ Life app.

No matter where your student is in their academic journey, here are some tips to help them start the semester strong.

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6 tips for talking to students about suicide

Anonymous — Mon, 01 Dec 2025 16:54:59 +0000

6 tips for talking to students about suicide Anonymous (not verified) Mon, 12/01/2025 - 09:54

While college is often a time of growth and opportunity, it can also be a period of intense stress that heightens suicide risk for some students. Talking about suicide, even if the conversation is brief, can encourage students who are at risk to seek support.

Here are some things you can do if you are concerned that your student or someone you know may be struggling or thinking about suicide.

1. Know the warning signs

There are sometimes subtle or more obvious signs that precede suicidal behaviors. Knowing potential warning signs and ways to intervene can dramatically reduce the risks of suicidal behaviors.

Here are some signs to watch out for:

Significant behavioral or emotional change

Withdrawing from friends, family or peer groups

Difficulty with self-care (like changes in appearance or hygiene)

Changes in academic performance (like cutting class, missing assignments, etc.)

Acting recklessly or engaging in risky behaviors

Engaging in self-destructive behaviors

Increased substance use

Being unable to sleep or sleeping all the time

Irritability, agitation or lashing out

Talking or writing about death, dying or suicide

Expressing feelings that life is meaningless or there is no reason to live

Expressing feeling desperate or trapped, like there is no way out

Comments about being a burden on others

Expressing feelings of hopelessness

Giving away possessions

The above signs could indicate that someone is struggling and if you notice these comments or behaviors, there are ways you can support your student and help them connect with support services.

2. Share your concerns

If you’re concerned about your student, gently share what you’ve noticed and your desire to help. It can be helpful to provide concrete examples of behaviors that you’ve noticed. For instance, you may say “I’ve noticed you seem unhappy lately” or “I’ve noticed that you haven’t been spending as much time with your friends as you used to.”

Let them know that this comes from a place of care, not criticism. Acknowledging their distress can help open the door for conversation. Recognize that your student may be hesitant to share with you due to fear about upsetting you, adding to your stress, or out of concern that you will not understand. Let them know that it is OK to talk to you about these things, and helpful for you to know how they are really doing.

3. Ask the question

Don’t be afraid to ask your student directly about suicide or self-harm. Contrary to what we may think, talking about suicide directly isn’t going to plant the idea in their head. If they have been thinking about suicide or self-harm, asking them about it can be a relief and an opportunity for them to talk about it more openly.

When you ask, express your care by saying something like “I’m asking because I care. Are you thinking about suicide?” If they aren’t, they’ll let you know. Asking students about suicidal thoughts, even if they aren’t thinking about suicide, lets them know that it’s okay to talk about it in the future if things change. If they are thinking about suicide, it is time to start exploring resources that can help, including those on campus. Family members can call 303-492-2277 to connect with a crisis counselor at Counseling & Psychiatric Services (CAPS). While CAPS therapists cannot confirm or deny if they are currently seeing your student due to privacy laws, they can consult with you generally about steps for supporting your student’s safety and discuss campus resources.

4. Manage your emotions

Talking openly about suicide can be challenging, especially if a student says they have or are considering it. It’s important to notice your own emotional response and seek support if needed. If students pick up on our own distress or anxiety when discussing the topic of suicide, they may feel like we are not able to handle what they have to tell us and may shut us out. Instead, try to reiterate your care and concern. Let them know that you are there for them and you want them to be okay.

5. Listen

Listen to your student without judgment and resist the urge to give them advice. It’s important to understand your student’s pain and what they’re experiencing. Keep in mind that suicidal thoughts are often short-term and specific to certain situations. In many cases, suicidal ideation is an attempt to control or manage significant pain. When the pain subsides, suicidal ideation often dissipates with it. However, understanding the source of your student’s pain (e.g., academic pressures, mental health concerns, etc.) can help better support them and connect them with resources.

6. Instill hope

Let your student know that there are resources available to help them and things can get better. Don’t be afraid to call for help immediately if you’re worried about their safety. Here are some on-campus resources that are available to help students who are struggling with mental health concerns or thoughts of suicide.

Welfare checks

Welfare checks should be considered when you are significantly worried about someone’s safety due to their recent behavior, or statements, and you or a friend or loved one are not able to contact them or ensure they are safe.

Welfare checks can be performed by any police department if you’re concerned about the health, safety or welfare of another person. Be prepared to give the exact address where the person is located (residence hall and room number if on campus) as well as the reason for your concerns.

On campus: CUPD 303-492-6666

Off campus: �鶹ӰԺ Police 303-441-3333 or the person’s local police department

Urgent resources

Crisis services

If your students need urgent or same-day support, Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS) provides crisis support 24/7. Call 303-492-2277 to connect with a crisis counselor. While CAPS therapists cannot confirm or deny if they are currently seeing your student due to privacy laws, they can consult with you generally about steps for supporting your student’s safety and discuss campus resources.

Student Outreach, Advocacy & Support

Student Outreach, Advocacy & Support provides support for Buffs throughout their time at CU �鶹ӰԺ. They are here to help students identify issues and appropriate resources. Student Outreach staff can also reach out to your student to try to proactively engage them with services. If a student meets with them, they also work collaboratively to develop an action plan.

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)

OVA provides free and confidential information, consultation, support, advocacy and short-term trauma-specific counseling services for students, grad students, faculty and staff who have experienced a traumatic, disturbing or life-disruptive events/incidents.

Additional resources

Let’s Talk

If your student could use additional support outside of the resources above, Let’s Talk is a great way for them to get connected with support services. They can meet one-on-one with a CAPS counselor for a confidential consultation that can help them gain insight and connect with additional resources on campus.

Workshops

If your student could use some skill building, workshops are a great way for them to learn coping skills related to anxiety, stress and other painful emotions. Workshops are available throughout the week and are covered by the student mental health fee.

Welltrack Boost

WellTrack Boost is a free app that is available to all CU �鶹ӰԺ students. It is designed to help students understand their mental health and to provide them with the help that they need online. This app address issues like stress, resiliency, anxiety and/or depression. WellTrack Boost is a self-guided and interactive way to manage mental well-being.

The end of the semester can be a difficult time for students. Here are some things you can do if you are concerned that your student or if you think they may be at risk of suicide.

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4 tips to support your student during finals

Valerie Padilla — Wed, 12 Nov 2025 13:50:12 +0000

4 tips to support your student during finals Valerie Padilla Wed, 11/12/2025 - 06:50

The end of the semester is in sight and many students are preparing for final exams. Here are some ways that you can support your student as they finish their semester.

Listen

Many students are studying for tests, writing papers and completing projects at the end of the semester. Sometimes your student just needs someone to listen to them as they vent about their worries and frustrations.

Respond with empathy and encourage them to stay optimistic. Remind them a break is just around the corner and they can relax once they get through the next few weeks.

Help them plan a strategy

Your student may be feeling overwhelmed and unmotivated, and you can offer to help them come up with a strategy to tackle their finals. Projects and studying can be made more manageable by breaking them down into smaller tasks. It can also help to block off study periods for each class on their calendar, and prioritize projects and exams based on deadlines.

Part of your student’s strategy can be finding the ideal study spot to get things done. They could study outside if the weather is warm, discover a new study spot on campus or take time to set up the perfect study environment wherever they are.

Encourage them to take breaks

Some students want to sit down and get everything done at once or pull an all-nighter, but that can be more harmful than helpful in the end since sleep is so vital for memory. Encourage them to take short breaks during study sessions (5-minute break for every 25 minutes of studying) to give their brain a rest. They can stretch, watch a funny video or listen to some of their favorite songs.

Staying hydrated and eating regular, balanced meals and snacks are also important for maintaining energy and focus.

Share academic resources

There’s still time for your student to ask for help if they are struggling with an assignment or subject. Encourage your student to reach out to their instructors or classmates with any questions. They can also take advantage of these academic resources—most are free, while some may require a fee.

Additionally, New Student & Family Programs is here to support you and your student and can help connect you to the right resources on campus.

The end of the semester is in sight and many students are preparing for final exams. Here are some ways that you can support your student as they finish their semester.

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Having your student home over fall break

Valerie Padilla — Tue, 28 Oct 2025 15:12:33 +0000

Having your student home over fall break Valerie Padilla Tue, 10/28/2025 - 09:12

Fall break can be a great time to reconnect with your student. If they will be visiting home, it can also be a great time to prepare for winter and complete other tasks. Here are a few things to consider with your student’s transition home.

Let them know of changes

Has a sibling moved into your student’s room? Is there a new pet in the family? Are there any other changes that may surprise your student? Help them adjust to being home again by letting them know of any changes before they arrive.

Talk about expectations

Since your student has moved out, the expectations may not be clear when it comes to helping out with household responsibilities while they are home over break. Share your expectations when it comes to laundry, dishes and other household chores.

It’s also a good idea to discuss any family plans and ask what their plans are while they’re home. Talk about how often you’d like to spend time together or plan a family night with a favorite activity for some quality time. It’s okay if your student wants some time to themselves, and it’s sometimes necessary to help them decompress from school.

Schedule check-ups

If possible, try to schedule any doctor or dentist appointments while your student is home during break, so they won’t need to worry about it when they are back on campus.

Learn about life at CU

While your student may not have been away from home that long, they are used to being on their own schedule and living independently. They may have new habits and views that could influence your time together.

Take time to get to know the independent person your student is becoming. Ask open-ended questions about their classes or major, what they enjoy about �鶹ӰԺ, who they spend time with and what they like to do in their free time. Keep in mind that some students may be struggling more than others. This can be a good time to determine if your student needs support.

Have important conversations

When your student visits, they may need to have important conversations with you, especially if things have not been going well. Here are some things you can do that lead to a healthy, positive experience with important conversations:

In a conversation, allow your student to share their point of view without interruption. Try to listen without judgement.

What you mean to say is not always what the other person hears—think about the intent and impact of your message. If you’re not sure what your student’s intent is during the conversation, let them know what you’re hearing and ask if that is what they meant.

When sharing your point of view, speak from your perspective. In turn, try to see things from your student’s perspective as well, rather than make assumptions.

When agreement is not possible, allow for multiple truths.

Prepare for winter

With the unpredictable winter weather in Colorado, it’s best to be prepared at all times. This is a great time to check with your student to see if they are ready for winter before returning to �鶹ӰԺ. Students should have plenty of layers, a winter coat, gloves, a hat and scarf, winter boots that are waterproof and extra blankets to stay warm when temperatures drop.

Reach out for help

If you have concerns about your student when they come home, you can reach out to Student Outreach, Advocacy & Support (SOAS). They can help you determine the signs of distress or concern, and how to connect with support resources. You can refer your student to SOAS by filling out their online referral form or by contacting their office at 303-492-7348.

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How to support your student during midterms

Anonymous — Thu, 16 Oct 2025 19:49:42 +0000

How to support your student during midterms Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 10/16/2025 - 13:49

The halfway point in the semester can be challenging for college students. Between midterms, projects and looming finals, motivation can dip. As a family member, your support can make a big difference. Here are a few ways to help your student stay grounded and encouraged.

Start by asking what they need

Before offering advice or solutions, check in with your student and ask what kind of support would be most helpful right now. They might simply want a listening ear—a safe space to share what they’re feeling without hearing recommendations. Or, they may need a suggestion for getting organized or want help connecting to resources on campus. Let your student lead the conversation and resist the urge to jump into “fix-it” mode too quickly. This empowers them and helps build trust in your relationship.

Talk about expectations

College students often put pressure on themselves to be perfect. Gently remind your student that doing their best is enough. Ask open-ended questions like:

“What does ‘good enough’ look like for you right now?”

“Are your expectations helping or hurting your well-being?”

“Would this still feel important in a month?”

Listening with empathy—without jumping in with advice—can help your student feel heard and supported.

Encourage positive self-talk

If your student is being hard on themselves, help them reframe their thoughts. Instead of “I’m so behind,” encourage them to say, “I’m making progress, and I’ll get there.” This kind of self-compassion can boost motivation and reduce stress.

Sometimes, students may also bond over how stressed they are, sharing stories about late nights or how many coffees they've had. While connecting over shared challenges can feel comforting, this kind of “stress bragging” can make burnout seem normal. Gently guide your student to focus on positive self-talk and remind them that taking care of their well-being is just as important as academic success.

Check in on basic needs

As midterms ramp up, it’s important for students to remember that practicing self-care and tending to basic needs can lay the foundation for academic success and emotional well-being. Encourage your student to check in with themselves using the HALT method:

H: Are they hungry?

A: Are they angry?

L: Are they lonely?

T: Are they tired?

Meeting these needs helps students stay focused and emotionally balanced.

Promote breaks and boundaries

Studying nonstop isn’t sustainable. Suggest study techniques like the Pomodoro method—25 minutes of focused work followed by short breaks, and repeating the cycle. Encourage your student to set limits on how late they’ll stay up or how much they’ll take on.

Celebrate small wins

Finishing a study guide or submitting a paper is worth celebrating. Help your student recognize these moments with small rewards—like a favorite meal, time with friends or a quiet evening to recharge.

Remind them: Grades don’t define them

It’s easy for students to tie their worth to academic performance. Let your student know they’re valued for who they are—not how they perform. Encourage them to take a deep breath and let go of what they can’t control once an assignment is turned in.

If they do get a grade that is lower than what they expected, encourage them to view it as a learning opportunity. Talk together about what they might try differently next time, such as new study strategies, seeking help from professors, or using campus resources. Remind them that setbacks are a normal part of learning and growth, and that each challenge can help them build resilience for the future.

Normalize asking for help

College students may hesitate to reach out, even when they need support. Remind them that professors, campus resources and family are all there to help. They don’t have to do it alone.

Encourage your student to use tutoring services on campus. Your Buff can also use wellness resources like Let's Talk through Counseling & Psychiatric Services, where they can drop in for a free chat with a counselor to get advice or find out about other ways to get support. Another helpful option is Peer Wellness Coaching, where students can talk with trained peers about stress, discuss ways to promote well-being, learn about helpful campus resources and connect with someone who understands what college life is like.

Supporting your college student during midterms doesn’t require grand gestures—just consistent, compassionate check-ins. Your encouragement can help them feel capable, cared for and ready to finish the semester strong.

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4 things to do if you're concerned about your student

Anonymous — Thu, 02 Oct 2025 15:14:00 +0000

4 things to do if you're concerned about your student Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 10/02/2025 - 09:14

While we all want our Buffs to have a positive college experience, many students may find themselves facing circumstances they weren’t expecting. The stress of college life and major life events like hospitalization, mental health concerns, loss of a loved one and relationship troubles can happen unexpectedly and may throw students off course.

Family members are often able to identify when their student is in distress and may be the first point of contact for advice or support. If you are concerned about your student, here are a few things you can do to support them.

1. Look for signs of distress

The first step in supporting a student who may be struggling is to understand and identify potential signs of distress. Some common signs to be aware of are listed below. Keep in mind that this list is not all-inclusive, and students may not always present themselves in these ways. Trust your instincts.

Behavioral changes

Significant changes in academic performance, poor grades, conduct issues at school

Unusual or increased spending, financial issues

Strange or bizarre behavior indicating loss of contact with reality

Rapid speech or manic behavior

Depressed or lethargic mood or functioning

Verbal abuse like taunting, badgering or intimidation

Physical changes

Significant weight changes, illnesses or injuries

Marked changes in physical appearance like poor grooming or hygiene or sudden changes in weight

Observable signs of injury like facial bruising/cuts or self-harm

Significant illnesses or injuries

Visibly intoxicated or smelling of alcohol or marijuana, increased or unusual substance use

Emotional/personality changes

Your student feels like a “different kid” when they come home

Isolation, major mood swings, bizarre or out of control behavior

Self-disclosure of personal distress like relationship problems, financial difficulties, assault, discrimination or legal difficulties

Unusual or disproportionate emotional response to events

Expression of concern about your student from friends, roommates, instructors or other family members

Safety risk

Verbal, written or implied references to suicide, homicide, assault or self-harm behavior

Unprovoked anger or hostility

Physical violence like shoving, grabbing, assaulting or use of a weapon

Stalking or harassing

Communicating threats or disturbing comments in person or via email, text or phone call

2. Talk to your student about your concerns

Let your student know that you’ve noticed changes and that you’re here to help. Acknowledging their distress, expressing your concerns and offering to explore resources with them can have a positive impact on your relationship and may increase the likelihood that your student will seek support. Here are a few things to keep in mind when approaching your student.

Find a good time to talk

You can set yourself and your student up for success by choosing a quiet space to talk, finding a time that works for both of you, explaining why you want to have this conversation and sharing what you hope will come of it.

Use “I” statements to express your concerns

When talking with your student about your concerns, it’s important to describe what you’ve noticed and let them know that you care about them. Using “I” statements can help you share this information with your student in an effective way. Here are some examples:

“I’ve noticed that you’ve been drinking/smoking more than you used to, and I wanted to check in to see how you’re doing.”

“I’ve noticed that you aren’t spending as much time with your friends, and I wanted to make sure you’re doing okay.”

“I’ve noticed that you’ve lost significant weight since I last saw you, and I am worried about you.”

Ask open-ended questions

Try to avoid yes or no questions that can be easily answered or dismissed. Instead, focus on asking open-ended questions that allow your student to express themselves and provide details that can help you evaluate the situation. For instance, you can use open-ended statements like:

Tell me about how the semester is going for you.

What are some of the things you are currently struggling with?

It seems like things at school may not be going as well as you expected. What do you think might be going on?

As you ask these questions, try to listen to your student’s response and ask clarifying questions if needed. It’s also important to listen, acknowledge and validate your student’s experience without offering judgment or advice, or jumping in to respond.

If your student is showing significant signs of distress, don’t be afraid to ask them about suicide. Contrary to what we may think, talking about suicide directly isn’t going to plant the idea in their head. If they have been thinking about suicide, asking them about it can be a relief and an opportunity for them to talk about it more openly.

When you ask, express your care by saying something like “I’m asking because I care about you. Are you thinking about suicide?” If they aren’t, they’ll let you know. Asking students directly, even if they aren’t thinking about suicide, lets them know that it’s okay to talk about it in the future if things change. If they are thinking about suicide, it’s likely time to help them connect with mental health resources on campus.

Avoid overpromising

When we have difficult or uncomfortable conversations, it can be easy to overpromise how things will turn out or provide general answers to move the conversation along. However, it’s important to avoid saying things like “everything will be alright” and “I know exactly how you feel.”

Instead, try to focus on letting your student know that you appreciate their willingness to talk to you about issues they’re facing. This is also an opportunity for you to reiterate how much you care for them. For instance, you may say something like, “I’m sorry to hear that. I want you to know that I am here for you and want to help you as much as I can.”

3. Make a referral

Student Outreach, Advocacy & Support (SOAS) is available to provide individualized support to CU �鶹ӰԺ students. SOAS case managers connect students with campus partners, community resources and support systems, while also building a trusting relationship and coaching them toward self-advocacy.

How to refer a student to SOAS
There are three ways to refer a student, including:

Filling out the online referral form

Calling SOAS at 303-492-7348

Emailing the department at soas@colorado.edu

It’s okay to be unsure if your student needs help. The severity of a student’s distress may be unclear, or you may be concerned about your student and not know how to move forward. Even if your student does not need immediate assistance, they still may be experiencing academic or personal issues and could use support.

4. Explore additional resources with your student

Referring your student to SOAS is a great first step, especially if you don’t know what your student may need in terms of support. Here are a few additional resources that are worth exploring with your student to see what they may benefit from the most.

Counseling & Psychiatric Services (CAPS)
CAPS is the primary mental health service on campus. They provide short-term counseling, community referrals, consultations, workshops, group therapy and more. CAPS is also available to provide insight and direction for family members or loved ones who want to support their student. You can learn more and find frequently asked questions on their Family Information page. Please note, CAPS cannot provide information about whether a student chooses visit their clinic or access services.

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)
There may be times when your student wants to speak confidentially or hypothetically about sexual misconduct, intimate partner abuse, stalking, discrimination or harassment. OVA is a free and confidential resource that supports students through traumatic or life-changing events through short-term counseling, advocacy and more.

Collegiate Recovery Community (CUCRC)
The CUCRC provides community, support and connection for students in recovery or seeking recovery from a wide range of behaviors. Their mission is to help develop peer-to-peer connections, support resiliency and contribute to their overall well-being through a welcoming and supportive recovery community.

Student Conduct & Conflict Resolution (SCCR)
SCCR provides resources and support for students who are currently working through conduct issues or need support navigating conflicts with roommates, friends, family, romantic partners and instructors.

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Emily Sampl — Tue, 09 Sep 2025 18:25:00 +0000

Resolving roommate and relationship conflicts Emily Sampl Tue, 09/09/2025 - 12:25

Student Conduct & Conflict Resolution

It’s common for college students to encounter conflicts, whether with roommates, friends or family members, as they adjust to campus life. Supporting your student through these challenges can help them build stronger, healthier relationships. Encouraging open conversation and offering guidance shows your student that you’re there for them during these moments. Here are some helpful tips you can share to prepare them for navigating disagreements and resolving conflicts with care.

Communicate effectively

When your college student finds themselves in a disagreement, it’s natural for communication to feel challenging. Emotions can sometimes take over, making it harder to focus on resolving the actual issue. Encouraging your student to communicate clearly and thoughtfully can help prevent minor misunderstandings from becoming major conflicts and support them in building positive relationships at school.

It may also be helpful for your student to take a moment and pause before diving into the conversation. Practicing mindfulness or calming techniques beforehand can create space for a more thoughtful and productive dialogue. Simple strategies like deep breathing, going for a walk or engaging in a calming activity they enjoy can help regulate emotions and prepare them to approach the situation with clarity and empathy. Remind your student that it's okay to take a break and return to the conversation when both parties feel ready. This kind of intentional preparation can make a big difference in how conflicts are resolved.

Here are some additional tips to share with your student:

Allow the other person to share their point of view without interruption and avoid judgement.

Listen as the other person shares their point of view, instead of forming a response to what they are saying.

Be mindful of body language.

When the other person is finished speaking, ask clarifying questions and summarize what was said. This helps to develop mutual understanding and validation.

When your student is sharing their point of view, encourage them to speak from their perspective, use “I” statements and avoid making assumptions.

Avoid bringing up past issues, making personal attacks and allowing emotions to dictate the conversation.

When agreement is not possible, allow for multiple truths.

Learn about conflict styles

Encourage your student to reflect on what they do when they disagree with someone. Do they tend to ignore the problem or avoid the person? Do they confront the person right away, or look for compromise?

Everyone has a different way of approaching conflict, and there is no correct approach—each has its own benefits and drawbacks. It is important for your student to recognize how they personally deal with conflict and how their style could clash with someone else’s.

Once your student understands how they handle conflict, they can take steps to work more effectively with others when it arises. If your student is not sure what their conflict style is, share this quiz with them to help them learn more.

Reach out for help

If your student is struggling with conflict, encourage them to find support.

Student Conduct & Conflict Resolution (SCCR)
SCCR offers free conflict support services including one-on-one conflict coaching, mediation and facilitated conversations. Learn more about conflict resolution.

Residence Life and resident advisors (RAs)
Students living on campus can reach out to their RA for more support. RAs are a great resource to help mediate conversations and find common ground. Be sure to talk with your roommate beforehand and schedule a time with your RA to discuss potential or unresolved issues.

Off-Campus Life
Off-Campus Life is here to help students with all aspects of living off campus, from searching for an apartment and roommate, understanding �鶹ӰԺ housing options and providing free lease reviews with our staff attorney, navigating roommate disagreements, understanding �鶹ӰԺ ordinances and advocating for tenant rights.

Peer Wellness Coaching
Peer wellness coaches provide peer-to-peer support and are available to meet with students living on or off campus. They can help you navigate concerns related to roommates, relationships, stress, finances and more. Peer wellness coaches can also help you set goals, connect with other resources and create self-care plans.

Here are some helpful tips you can share with your student to prepare them for navigating disagreements and resolving conflicts with care.

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